Sunday, April 09, 2006

Things that make you go hmmm..

One of the most important things we need in life are friends that make good listeners. Ever had one of those conversations, where all your friend wants to do is vent, and wants you to simply, passively, agree with him/her? Doesn't matter if the conversation turns into a monologue, your friend is not looking for reason or an intelligible debate about "the other side of the story". Doesn't matter if you've even actually been on the other side before, and therefore think you can offer valuable words of wisdom now. In this case, all you need to do is shut up, and go "hmm, hmm..sacchii???? yeah man, hmmm hmmm". Those are the only words you need to know. It's possible, that your friend's complaints are completely lop-sided, but please, give your friend the credit for being an intelligent human being, capable of acquiring a balanced world-view in good course of time. Don't get all hung up on wanting to teach your friend the realities of life, or warn your friend about things to come. For now, just go hmm...

13 comments:

Sayesha said...

Gosh I SO agree with this!! Guys, especially, tend to feel compelled to "give advice" or "solve your problem" or tell you that your thinking is wrong, when all that they are expected to say is "Hmm...." :)

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

yeah man, it's largely a guy thing, but can sometimes penetrate into the fairer sex too..

Anonymous said...

/yeah man, it's largely a guy
thing, but can sometimes
penetrate into the fairer sex too

lolz!! you should proofread before you comment. that line is FULL of double entendres :)

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

LOL. and finding those, is a guy thing too, isn't it?

Anonymous said...

'largely' yes... :)

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

and so is the obsession with the word "large".
jeez i'm going to stop this now!!
;)

Sudarshan said...

I'm in total agreement..You need friends who comment on your actions lol but u need friends who are great listeners too..!!! Great post..Nice blog too.. I came here first time..good work:-)

I am off blogger said...

From now onwards, only "hmmmmm s" from my side.........
Hmmmmm
hmmmmm

The Girl Who Sold The World said...

*Sigh* Wish I had such "Hmmm" kinda friends. Most of my friends are blabbermouths like me and very keen on spewing out advice...argh!

yeah man, it's largely a guy thing, but can sometimes penetrate into the fairer sex too..
HAHAHAHAHA! I agree with Anon. This is classic case of double-entendres! :P

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

hi sudarshan,
thanks, i just peeked into your blog and the photographs on there kick ass! :) you'll be seeing me there more often...

oye sumit,
exams khatam nai aur blog shog? hmm..hmmm??? waise this wasn't the "Cheerful" post i promised you, but the comments took care of that, ya?

oye ladkiiiii,
haan, jo boyega, so paayega. samjhi? ;) nice seeing you here.

I am off blogger said...

Exams wagera to sab moh-maya hai, aate jaate rahte hain!!
I even have a loooong post on my blog today, actually aaj chhuti hai aur kal ke 2 mid-sems easy-se hain,so.....
Do tell when that long-awaited post aaye, is post ko padh ke mujhe to laga thaa tumhara sense of humour hi gum gaya hai!! Nai post is good lekin as u noticed not "cheerful" ;)

Sayesha said...

World Girl,
Noticed that this is the only place where Ipanema Girl can't beat you to the bold? ;) Unless she's crazy enough to be the first to comment on her own blog! :O
I did that once! :P

Rebellion said...

hehehe..

All I'd planned to write in the comment was "Hmmm" :p but the comments made me laugh :D

But I really agree with you.. Advices and all can wait.. but when you really need a friend.. she should be understanding & a good listener.. Err... Most of the times I am and now I feel proud of it :D \:D/

hehe..
Take care,
Aarti