Sunday, September 17, 2006

On prejudices

We all have them, some we proclaim, unabashedly, some we prefer to sweep under the carpet and some we don't even know exist. And then we come face to face with some, after having unknowingly upheld them for the longest time.

Interesting story.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

but dont you think they help you make some decision. sometimes you end up taking wrong decisions (and regretting them) but other times it helps if you have pre-notions about people.

as for me, i am free of all prejudiices, i hate everyone equally. (too corny??)

:D

Anonymous said...

okk! i had not read the article.

touched!

:)

qsg said...

Beautiful!

I have often thought about adopting a little girl from India - the fear of not being able to give the right values, or the right upbringing always freaks me out! :)

I didn't know the number of biases I had until I came to the US - I know I am prejudiced, and I really can't do much about some of the prejudices...they are there and it is almost artificial to remove them... unfortunately.

And don't even get me started on the skin color biases - I have heard so many ppl in my family make certain remarks of ppl just because they are not as fair skinned! North India is nutorious for that! :(

Prashanth said...

That statement of yours reminded me of the movie Crash.

Read the story.... interesting!!

The Smiling Girl said...

That story is really so touching... in some strange way..
Yes.. adopting a baby is a real test for a person's maturity... Thats one of the main reasons why I have not been able to decide about adopting a baby...

Di said...

cool article na...

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

hi anony,

Yes, they may "help" us make a decision. But I don't believe that they're the right reasons for those decisions. But it happens, nevertheless.

as for me, i am free of all prejudiices, i hate everyone equally
hehe. you seem like a really nice, non-prejudiced person. :-)

QSG,
skin colour biases in india? ah! i have seen enough. let's not go there.
adopting a child and transplanting her to a foreign country is quite something.I am seeing one case from close quarters and i think it's best done for the child when she's really young.

prashanth,
yes, the movie crash! very apt reference.

SG,
I think the story was touching because it was so honest.

hi di!
yes, indeed, cool article.

greensatya said...

Yeah, the story is terribly honest.

qsg said...

One of my biggest criteria for discrimination is brains, or lack of...! :)

The Inquisitive Akka said...

Well that was an honest article! I know of a south indian couple who went to the north to adopt a fair skinned child!

memesaheba said...

Interesting article. We are a mixed race couple with a bio child that looks better than either of us, lol. I can totally get the author though I haven't walked in her shoes. There is so much focus on who your kid looks like!

Perspective Inc. said...

Interesting article. Painfully honest. But thats about the only thing that it has going for it.. just because it was "honest" doesn't really make it 'ok'.. I thought it was a lil' too blase for such a loaded thought...

Andy E. said...

The thing with prejudices isn't so much that you have them, but what you do about them.

Appu said...

when it comes to cleaning house, we normally hide. good post, brutally honest

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

satya,
terribly, indeed!

qsg,
lol! wonder how i became your friend?

akka,
wow! that's something. and somehow it doesn't surprise me. sad.

hi alpana!
so true. the who your kid looks like, how your kid looks, and if it's a girl, it never does end.

perspective,
hmm..i was waiting for someone to say what you said. i felt quite uncomfortable when i read it- wasn't sure how i felt really. i don't think, tho, the author is justifying her feelings- she's just putting it out there.

andy e!
where/how have you been?? very well said.

appu,
yes, we try to cover up/ justify our own biases. like andy said, a good move would be to acknowledge them and change. easier said than done, i guess.