Friday, December 22, 2006

On abrupt goodbyes

I hate goodbyes. And abrupt goodbyes even more. It's like you take something for granted, haven't even thought about how you're going to deal with it's impending disappearance, and suddenly, it's snatched away! D was not supposed to leave until early next year. Some last minute glitch, and she came in telling us yesterday how today would be her last working day. D is one of the most livliest characters in the lab. I will miss our walks home together, the jokes, the gossip, the ranting. The portuguese lessons, her affection and her general infectious enthusiasm in life. A computer scientist with a curiosity for biology, it was always refreshing to talk science with her. You would think , with all the friends that I've had leave over the past year or so, I'd be a pro at the whole goodbye thing. Looks like I learnt nothing. I still do draama. Everyone else feels uneasy. Then I laugh it off. Now people are uneasy and confused. What fun. :-) We had a hurriedly arranged farewell gift organised for her and took her to lunch today. We parted ways with her trademark warm hug and a kiss. Thankfully, she's not leaving town yet, so we will just have to catch up over beer and coffee. But of course it won't be the same as her walking into lab everyday, screaming "Tee Gee Eff Eye, how are your gorgeous parasites doing?". :-)
I'll miss ya D! :(

10 comments:

The Smiling Girl said...

Aha.. thats bad.. I hate saying Goodbyes to friends...

Rebellion said...

Thats bad bad baaaaaaaad Lajjo. Me too hate goodbye's! Don't understand one thing... Why is it called GOODbye? After all, there's nothing good about it!!!

Anyways, we miss you too, please get back... you know where!

Take care,
Aarti

Rebellion said...

P.S: I took the silver... after ages :D

Neihal said...

yeah....goodbyes and that too abrupt ones...:(

Anonymous said...

abrupt goodbyes are good.

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

S.G, aarti, neihal,
yeah. goodbyes just suck. yeah- don't know what's so good about them either- guess it's a way of imparting goodwill. :)
congrats on your silver, aarti :)

anony,
why?

qsg said...

I almost agree with anonymous - abrupt goodbyes take away the pain of having to live through the process of knowing, and then dealing with it. Abrupt goodbyes - clean cut! Done! You only deal with the after effects! Cut the pain short!

Rebellion said...

Gems, you really think so???
Goodbyes are goodbyes, and they always hurt!!!

The_Girl_From_Ipanema said...

qsg, aarti,
yeah- the pain is the same- either before or after. with abrupt goodbyes- you don't even get to say goodbye in the way you'd wish to. that's what bothers me.

Tachyoson said...

worse than goodbyes are the people who vanish overnight - as if into some Gruesome Communication Proof Gulag of Life.