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C.

Ooh, interesting question (and made me delurk as well). Waiting for the male responses.
I always thought I would retain my name as is, not sure what to do with the kids' names. However, this does seem like a neat solution if both parties are on board.

sg.

I guess closest answer is C. But frankly, changing either of our names was never a question that came up or even briefly debated.

Both are too lazy go through all that paperwork. :)

Kids - we are doing fine without and happy - but in case of such issues, would have to have a hyphen, I guess. Will be weird with our surnames though (a good reason not to procreate ?)

C
but Also F, as in WTF, who cares! Its too much Govt work anyway.

I have a good idea. Lets do away with the surnames. :)
you r welcome
:D

I guess C....but I happily took up my husband's surname...so F should also be right...

C is the best answer. And if it's going to be India, OMG the paperwork! No way..


No one talking about any sort of pressure from the respective grandparents on either side?! :p

I am so pissed that nobody said E. deeply disappointed in readers of deep thought. hmph.

retained maiden name. it's a non issue. kids get hubby's last name. coz my name + his= true horror(my name is a touch too long). same reason why i dod not hypenate.

Probably will hyphenate for myself but kids probably will take his name, both our surnames together would be way too long to saddle on an unwilling person.

ohh. my wife will have my surname.

C or D

I for one refused to change my lastname after marriage. We don't have lastnames where I'm from, so it was meaningless to change it to my husband's lastname, which happens to be his Dad's name. But I have to constantly carry a copy of my marriage certificate since a lot of times we have to prove that we are indeed married.

Female reader

@ all,
thanks for being such good sports and leaving comments. Clearly, the time has yet to come when husbands willingly take on the wife's surname. I will look forward to the day. :p

Now suppose that both partners change to a hyphenated surname and the kids are given a hyphenated surname. What will happen when the kid marries? will he/she change the name to first_name father-mother-wife_surnames ? What about the grand child?

As you can see the better solution is not to change any name. Let the kid have any one of the parent's surname.

Hi TGIF,

Commenting after a looong time!
I retained my maiden surname, and he did not ask me to change. It was a complete and total non-issue!

About kids is definitely a question we will have to think about- not that we have any as yet, but maybe one will have my surname and one will have his. Or both!

the hubby isnt in the least bothered that I prefer my dad's name (we dont have a last name - its the dad's name we take over) over his name. I would kill him/ divorce him/ maim him if he were to force me to change my name.

Even my passport has my dad's name on it :) and I love it.

My kids can take over his name. I am adamant about me having daddy dearest's name, so why should my kids not? :)